Hey Everyone,
I can't believe I'm actually writing about Facebook addiction...which I know is not fatal yet needs to be addressed immediately. Have you ever seen how much competition and depression can come from sites like Facebook. Yeah I know most of you must be thinking that I am saying so because that's the effect it has on me, and that's true it does but I have also had ample free time to see that it does have the same impact on many other people. Sitting in front of the laptop hour after hour trying to make up for the loss of actual social contact.
I love the dialogues by Vidya Balan in the movie Lage Raho Munnabhai when she is doing the radio show and she says,
Shaher ki is daud me daud ke karna kya hai?
Jab yehi jeena hai dosto to phir marna kya hai?
Paheli barish me train late hone ki fikr hai
Bhul gaye bhigte hue tahelna kya hai?
Serials ke kirdaaro ka saara haal hai malum
par maa ka haal puchhne ki fursat kaha hai?
Ab ret pe nange pao tahelte kyu nahi?
108 hai chanel phir dil bahelte kyu nahi?
Internet se duniya ke to touch me hai,
lekin pados me kon raheta hai jaante tak nahi.
Mobile, Landline sab ki bharmaar hai,
Lekin jigri dost tak pahuche aise taar kaha hai?
Kab dubte hue suraj ko dekha tha, yaad hai?
Kab jaana tha shaam ka guzarna kya hai?
To Dosto Shaher ki is daud me daud ke karna kya hai
Jab yahi jeena hai to phir Marna kya hai?
I know she is not the writer of these dialogues but really she delivered them well. Touching...
Day after day I have seen my friends just post their old pics to compete with the better ones of someone else, I have seen people constantly checking their profile to see if someone liked their photo, making sure they update their "check-in" before actually entering any well known places...why the desperate need to be noticed?
I am not talking of people who have nothing to do and have time on hand for this, I am talking of super busy successful people feeling the need to get that attention from school or college friends they haven't even seen in the last 10-15 years. They are people who get up in the morning and the first thing they do is to check if their friends/competitors have anything fresh to say already...what did they miss?? What surprises me even more is that these people are actually happy in their lives, as per them and yet they need that approval from people. Well its an individuals own nature I guess but what I find even stranger is the people who actually need that attention.
Check out your profile and look for that one person who is there but never updates their pic...never checks-in anywhere, likes every one's pics but has none of his own to share. Those are the friends who actually need attention.
Have you ever tried to get in touch with a friend after he posted something sad on Facebook, or something not so happening? My guess is No!
I have a friend, his father passed away when he was in college. His uncles cheated his mother into signing his father's share of the property over to them in lieu of some loan that he had taken from the business. Their house was taken away by the bank due to non payment too. He left his studies and started working in a store as a salesman to be able to finish his studies and still is working in some company managing himself and his mom. Unfortunately lack of education didn't really give his the best earning opportunities and so he is still living in a one room house on rent with his mom. He is 32 and still cannot plan to marry because he hasn't been able to earn enough to even buy a house yet. Has no relatives who would support so has to take care of mom too. But worse than that he says that when all this happened, something died in him. His Confidence!
He was a bright student but because he was an average looking guy, he didn't have the best of circles at school too and even now no one bothers where he is. This is what I know because after I found him on Facebook I chatted with him and I was shocked to know that he was still living with his mom, which in surprising these days, even in India. I called him and chatted to him for days before he told me everything. The weird part was he had been in my profile for 2 years before I realized that he never updated anything about himself but always complimented or liked my updates. Those are the friends who need us.....
Well, my so called vent out isn't over yet, there's a lot more to this but I'll have to do that later. Leave me a comment, honestly tell me don't you think you have some friends from the addicted and the invisible category in your profile???
Lots of Love
I can't believe I'm actually writing about Facebook addiction...which I know is not fatal yet needs to be addressed immediately. Have you ever seen how much competition and depression can come from sites like Facebook. Yeah I know most of you must be thinking that I am saying so because that's the effect it has on me, and that's true it does but I have also had ample free time to see that it does have the same impact on many other people. Sitting in front of the laptop hour after hour trying to make up for the loss of actual social contact.
I love the dialogues by Vidya Balan in the movie Lage Raho Munnabhai when she is doing the radio show and she says,
Shaher ki is daud me daud ke karna kya hai?
Jab yehi jeena hai dosto to phir marna kya hai?
Paheli barish me train late hone ki fikr hai
Bhul gaye bhigte hue tahelna kya hai?
Serials ke kirdaaro ka saara haal hai malum
par maa ka haal puchhne ki fursat kaha hai?
Ab ret pe nange pao tahelte kyu nahi?
108 hai chanel phir dil bahelte kyu nahi?
Internet se duniya ke to touch me hai,
lekin pados me kon raheta hai jaante tak nahi.
Mobile, Landline sab ki bharmaar hai,
Lekin jigri dost tak pahuche aise taar kaha hai?
Kab dubte hue suraj ko dekha tha, yaad hai?
Kab jaana tha shaam ka guzarna kya hai?
To Dosto Shaher ki is daud me daud ke karna kya hai
Jab yahi jeena hai to phir Marna kya hai?
I know she is not the writer of these dialogues but really she delivered them well. Touching...
Day after day I have seen my friends just post their old pics to compete with the better ones of someone else, I have seen people constantly checking their profile to see if someone liked their photo, making sure they update their "check-in" before actually entering any well known places...why the desperate need to be noticed?
I am not talking of people who have nothing to do and have time on hand for this, I am talking of super busy successful people feeling the need to get that attention from school or college friends they haven't even seen in the last 10-15 years. They are people who get up in the morning and the first thing they do is to check if their friends/competitors have anything fresh to say already...what did they miss?? What surprises me even more is that these people are actually happy in their lives, as per them and yet they need that approval from people. Well its an individuals own nature I guess but what I find even stranger is the people who actually need that attention.
Check out your profile and look for that one person who is there but never updates their pic...never checks-in anywhere, likes every one's pics but has none of his own to share. Those are the friends who actually need attention.
Have you ever tried to get in touch with a friend after he posted something sad on Facebook, or something not so happening? My guess is No!
I have a friend, his father passed away when he was in college. His uncles cheated his mother into signing his father's share of the property over to them in lieu of some loan that he had taken from the business. Their house was taken away by the bank due to non payment too. He left his studies and started working in a store as a salesman to be able to finish his studies and still is working in some company managing himself and his mom. Unfortunately lack of education didn't really give his the best earning opportunities and so he is still living in a one room house on rent with his mom. He is 32 and still cannot plan to marry because he hasn't been able to earn enough to even buy a house yet. Has no relatives who would support so has to take care of mom too. But worse than that he says that when all this happened, something died in him. His Confidence!
He was a bright student but because he was an average looking guy, he didn't have the best of circles at school too and even now no one bothers where he is. This is what I know because after I found him on Facebook I chatted with him and I was shocked to know that he was still living with his mom, which in surprising these days, even in India. I called him and chatted to him for days before he told me everything. The weird part was he had been in my profile for 2 years before I realized that he never updated anything about himself but always complimented or liked my updates. Those are the friends who need us.....
Well, my so called vent out isn't over yet, there's a lot more to this but I'll have to do that later. Leave me a comment, honestly tell me don't you think you have some friends from the addicted and the invisible category in your profile???
Lots of Love
